The title seems harsh, right? I know, but it’s the truth! After talking to some friends and family this year, I realized just how much this statement relates to real life situations.
But first, let me give you an explanation as to why I titled this post that way.
You know those moments in zombie movies where there’s always one person in the group that goes hard core in helping you fight the other zombies? Like, they’re helping with nailing wood planks to windows, shooting the zombies that dare try to make it through, they even jump to dangerous heights to keep you safe. Then, after that whole 10 minute ordeal, you all get to take a breather for a minute before the next batch comes, and after heavy breathing you see your friend wincing in pain.
That’s when you realize he’d been bitten and had been hiding it this whole time.
You ask them when it happened, assuming it occurred during your most recent zombie battle, but they reveal that it’s been 5 hours since they’d been bitten. You have a choice to make, right? Do I kill my only friend, or do I try and save him with some weird anecdote this crazed doctor left behind before he’d gotten eaten?
You’re probably going to kill him, right? Because his eyes are changing, he’s starting to growl in between sentences, and the twitches are slowly creeping in.
It’s time to take the shot.
Much like a zombie movie, we too, decide to suffer in silence. Not because we’re “too good”, but because we don’t want to bleed our problems onto other people we care about. Sometimes we feel stupid for the situation we’re in, sometimes we feel that someone else wouldn’t understand, or sometimes we are just plain stubborn.
God created us to be communal beings. That means that we are relational, we need connection to make it in life. Suffering in silence secludes you from the help that you really need. What if that loved one you’re too afraid to ask for help from, is just the resource you need? What then? Are you just going to hold onto the struggle?
In Romans 15:12 it says:
Those of us who are strong and able in the faith need to step in and lend a hand to those who falter, and not just do what is most convenient for us. Strength is for service, not status. Each one of us needs to look after the good of the people around us, asking ourselves, “How can I help?”MSG
We are all part of one body in Christ. Although there is room for human err, we should be lifting each other up to build the body of Christ into a mighty and loving army.
To suffer in silence, is a disservice to yourself. You may think that no one understands you, you may not want to talk about it because it makes you feel too vulnerable, you may even be mad at the fact this is happening in your life right now.
But know this, there are folks out there that are willing and able to help you through. God has worked wonders in sending those people into my life when I struggled the hardest, and it has meant the world to me.
If you don’t see them around you right now, maybe you’re too close to the wall you feel blocked by. Maybe it’s time to take a step back, take a deep breath, and ask God to open your eyes to see what you’re not seeing and to reveal those folks that are just waiting to lend a helping hand.
He can, and will, help you out of your grief, heartbreak, worry, depression, anxiety, etc. if you trust Him to do it. That means laying it down and releasing to him every single thought or feeling you have about the situation to Him. Don’t go blabbing off to your spouse, friend, or coworker thinking they’ll solve your problem for you, it’ll just come back like a boomerang.
No, talk to God about it. Because that loneliness you’re feeling in this suffering is a nudge from God to seek Him now so that he can free you from that bondage.
And when you release it, and you feel the weights lifting off, don’t go back and pick it up again. Keep going back to God and talking it through with him.
And if you need a friend or loved one to pray for you, I’m here. You can always email me at email@example.com and I will pray over your situation.
Life is too precious to suffer alone. Let someone help you, even if it’s just for a moment.